Wednesday, Jan 16 2019
CONFIDENCE - 04 AUGUST 2003
My humble pranams at the Lotus
Feet of Swami.
Sai ram Uncles, Aunties,
Brothers and Sisters. I am Tamanna from Primary 5. I
am about to give a talk on the steps to build self-confidence.
I will start with my very favourite motto that is almost
like a mantra to me: “If it is to be, it is up
to me. There is a story about a beggar sitting at a
train station with a bowl full of pencils. A young executive
passed by and dropped a dollar into the bowl, but didn’t
take any pencils. He then boarded the train. Just before
the doors were about to close, the executive suddenly
exited the train and went back to the beggar. He grabbed
a bunch of pencils, and said, “I will take some
pencils. They are priced right. After all, you are a
business person and so am I”, and he dashed back
onto the train.
Six months later, the executive attended a party. The
beggar was also there dressed in a suit and tie. The
beggar recognised the executive, went up to him and
said “You probably don’t recognise me but
I remember you.” He then narrated the incident
that had happened six months before. The executive said,
“Now that you remind me, I do recall that you
were begging. What are you doing here in suit and tie?”
The beggar replied, “You probably don’t
know what you did for me that day. Instead of giving
me charity, you treated me with dignity. You grabbed
the bunch of pencils and said, “They are priced
right. After all, you are a business person and so am
I.” After you left, I thought to myself, “What
am I doing here? Why am I begging?” I decided
to do something constructive with my life. I packed
my bag, started working and here I am. I just want to
thank you for giving me back my dignity. That incident
changed my life.”
What changed in the beggar’s life?
What changed was that his self-confidence went
up and so did his performance. This is the magic of
self-confidence in our lives. Simply put, self-confidence
is how we feel about ourselves. Our opinion of ourselves
critically influences everything, from our performance
at work, our relationships to our accomplishments in
life. Unless you perceive yourself as worthwhile, you
cannot have high self- confidence.
In order to build up a child’s confidence, feelings
and opinions must be heard in order for them to feel
and develop a sense of self-awareness and identity.
Allowing a child to make certain decisions, like the
clothes they want to choose from the closet or what
to choose at a restaurant, will help the child feel
like he is an independent valued person.
|This is how a person with high self-confidence
(raise your right hand) would think compared to
a person with a low self-esteem (raise your left
*Each time you talk about (HSE) or (LSE) indicate
by pressing that hand forward.
Talks about ideas
|Low self- esteem
Talks about people
Blames the whole world
Looks down on others
How can we create a positive atmosphere?
Self- confidence is contagious. By practicing self-confidence
ourselves, people are likely to ‘catch it’
from them. People who are insecure and anxious are likely
to transmit that attitude to others around them. Read
the life stories of people who have turned negative
into a positive and stumbling blocks into stepping stones.
Some of the best music was composed by Beethoven and
guess what; he was deaf. Some of the best poetry written
on nature was written by Milton and what was his handicap?
He was blind. One of the greatest world leaders was
US President Franklin D. Roosevelt. What was his handicap?
He served from a wheelchair. These great people turned
their scars into stars. Likewise; we can be what we
choose to be. Lastly, does having a high self-confidence
mean having a big ego?? A definite “No!”
In a nutshell, a person with high self-confidence should
be humble, self-motivated and be positive about everything
that happens around. To end on a positive note, ‘If
it is to be, it is up to me.’
Jai Sai Ram
SSEHV Group 3